Have no doubts…it will all work out.
Have no fear, have no doubt, it will all work out. The phrase is something to consider. Imagine a world, a life that has no fear, which is not plagued by doubt. Fear and doubt is the ego questioning everything that you do or that you are going to do. Look, listen, deep into your soul there is a little voice in there waiting to be heard. She is speaking; she is calling out to you. "Listen to me…it has been a long time since you have heard what I have to say." Pay attention to her. She knows all, she knows everything. She has many words of wisdom to guide you. She is you. You. Yes, she is you. Listen to her. Deep within, within your soul there is guidance that has always been there. Somewhere along the way we stopped listening to that inner guidance. As we grew up it became hazy and then plummeted into a deep fog. Well, I am here to tell you that the fog is beginning to lift and now she is calling out to you. Listen to what she has to say…"Have no doubts, no doubts, no doubts…it all works out." Every word, every action, every deed is done for a reason, an incredible reason. Nothing you do or say is ever wrong. Wrong is something you were taught when you were little. It was wrong to do this, it was wrong to do that. All the things you were told not to do, that you were scolded for. I am telling you, your soul is telling you that there is no wrong. You are a divine masterpiece. Everything you have gone through thus far has taken you to where you are right now. And where you are right now is exactly where you are supposed to be. So embrace the fears, embrace the doubts, feel them for what they are, a divine creation of you. In loving the fears and the doubt you love yourself, and what a beautiful gift to give yourself and all those who surround you. When you love yourself, you love the world. In embracing fear you embrace the world.
Re-member, all fear is a call for love. In essence all doubt, is a call for love. When you question yourself, your actions, your thoughts…embrace them, love them, hold them close to your heart and tell them it is going to be o.k. It is o.k. little darlings there is nothing to fear. Every step you take to this deep realization is a step closer to embracing your divinity. Remember you are a divine creation that is always learning and always remembering who you are. Like a parent who loves their children and would do nothing to harm them, this is also true of your very existence. It is all about thought. You are a divine master and in your thoughts you create your world. If you think that it is going to be a horrible day than that is exactly what you shall see. If you think it is a beautiful life with opportunities just waiting for you to embrace then this is also what you shall see. No one said it was an easy ride. It takes work to change these thought patterns and to change how you view the world. It all begins with you. What you think, you shall create. If you feel that there are no doubts and that it will all work out then that is exactly what you will create. If you have doubts and you believe that these doubts are telling you that something is going to go wrong, or that it will not work itself out if I don’t do something right away, then this is exactly what will happen. Instead, try to relax and go within. Check in with your soul and see what she has to say before jumping in to the same old patterns. Give yourself a chance to listen to that little voice first. Before you know it that little voice will get stronger and stronger and stronger. Then the old patterns will be replaced by your new powerful voice of divine wisdom. It is all about understanding your ability to create your reality and then stepping up to the plate to claim your reality.
I claim my existence. I claim how I view the world. I claim what I want in my life. In the sea of existence we are all creatures learning how to breathe, and how to swim in our own ways. There is no right or wrong. What may be right for you may be completely wrong for someone else. We are all here learning to swim. Whether you dogie paddle, breast stroke, free style, or swim under water it is all up to you. Claim your divinity, claim your power, claim your existence, and claim your inner voice waiting for you inside. Ultimately, you will finally begin to realize their really is nothing to fear, nothing to doubt, and that it really all does work out.
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Piece Number 1
Ask, and you shall receive because you are worthy.
How many of us ask for help? We spend our days doing, doing, and doing more. We do it all and then we volunteer to do more. Our “to do” list is never done. We find an eternal list of things to be done and needs to be met for everyone else. Do we ever stop to meet our own needs or do things for ourselves? Do we ever ask for anything from anyone else? Usually, we do not. Where did we learn this when we came into this life asking for everything without hesitation? Usually, we were taught this from those around us setting the example. For many of us, our own mothers did everything for everyone around us and we rarely witnessed them doing anything for themselves. So we learned that this was what we were supposed to do. Basically, we are worthy if we do for others.
Some of us may have learned this from our educational institutions. They teach that the more extracurricular activities you do and the more extra credit you can achieve the more worthy you are. We are praised for doing it all and encouraged to do even more. But what happens when we continually give what we have to the world around us? We eventually have nothing left for ourselves. Our wells run dry. The gas runs out. Our buckets get tipped over. We find ourselves tired and overwhelmed. We have nothing left and then we wonder why we feel so tired, angry and resentful at the endless amount of things to do, places to go, and goals to accomplish.
We need to learn to fill ourselves so that we can fill others in return. We need to remember to accept ourselves for who we are in all ways and every way. When we can begin to see that we are worthy. Worthy of being filled, worthy of love, worthy of everything the world has to offer and more then we can begin to understand that we are just as important as anyone else and anything else that needs to be done. Our needs are just as worthy of being met. There is healing power in the courage to ask and the ability to receive. Ask, and you shall receive. Give and you will be fulfilled. We can not do one without the other. We need help, we need each other.
A friend of mine once said that we are tribal beings needing each other. I have finally understood this to be true. When I am able to give to others I am filled just as much as when I balance this with receiving in return. In this idea we must trust that we will always be provided with exactly what we need. Many of us get caught up in the worry and the fear that there is never enough time, too much to do, and an endless amount of work. When simply what we need to do is enjoy ourselves and remember that anything is possible and all we have to do is ask for help in any and every way that is necessary to help us see that we can believe that anything is possible! Another words, all you have to do is ask and you shall receive. But be careful that you BELIEVE that it is possible. Which in turn means you must believe in yourself and truly accept all of you. You must love you. This is why we need each other; to help us believe in ourselves and see how truly miraculous each one of us is. I need you because you have much to teach me and you need me because I have much to teach you. We give to each other and we receive. We are humans needing to give and needing to receive. You are worthy of giving and oh so worthy of receiving. You are worthy of asking for help. You are worthy of having your needs met. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of abundance. Worthiness is loving yourself and loving each other at the same time. So next time you feel the need to ask for help, be it from a friend, a lover, the universe, or God, just believe that you are worthy to receive and ask. Just ask and you shall receive.
How many of us ask for help? We spend our days doing, doing, and doing more. We do it all and then we volunteer to do more. Our “to do” list is never done. We find an eternal list of things to be done and needs to be met for everyone else. Do we ever stop to meet our own needs or do things for ourselves? Do we ever ask for anything from anyone else? Usually, we do not. Where did we learn this when we came into this life asking for everything without hesitation? Usually, we were taught this from those around us setting the example. For many of us, our own mothers did everything for everyone around us and we rarely witnessed them doing anything for themselves. So we learned that this was what we were supposed to do. Basically, we are worthy if we do for others.
Some of us may have learned this from our educational institutions. They teach that the more extracurricular activities you do and the more extra credit you can achieve the more worthy you are. We are praised for doing it all and encouraged to do even more. But what happens when we continually give what we have to the world around us? We eventually have nothing left for ourselves. Our wells run dry. The gas runs out. Our buckets get tipped over. We find ourselves tired and overwhelmed. We have nothing left and then we wonder why we feel so tired, angry and resentful at the endless amount of things to do, places to go, and goals to accomplish.
We need to learn to fill ourselves so that we can fill others in return. We need to remember to accept ourselves for who we are in all ways and every way. When we can begin to see that we are worthy. Worthy of being filled, worthy of love, worthy of everything the world has to offer and more then we can begin to understand that we are just as important as anyone else and anything else that needs to be done. Our needs are just as worthy of being met. There is healing power in the courage to ask and the ability to receive. Ask, and you shall receive. Give and you will be fulfilled. We can not do one without the other. We need help, we need each other.
A friend of mine once said that we are tribal beings needing each other. I have finally understood this to be true. When I am able to give to others I am filled just as much as when I balance this with receiving in return. In this idea we must trust that we will always be provided with exactly what we need. Many of us get caught up in the worry and the fear that there is never enough time, too much to do, and an endless amount of work. When simply what we need to do is enjoy ourselves and remember that anything is possible and all we have to do is ask for help in any and every way that is necessary to help us see that we can believe that anything is possible! Another words, all you have to do is ask and you shall receive. But be careful that you BELIEVE that it is possible. Which in turn means you must believe in yourself and truly accept all of you. You must love you. This is why we need each other; to help us believe in ourselves and see how truly miraculous each one of us is. I need you because you have much to teach me and you need me because I have much to teach you. We give to each other and we receive. We are humans needing to give and needing to receive. You are worthy of giving and oh so worthy of receiving. You are worthy of asking for help. You are worthy of having your needs met. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of abundance. Worthiness is loving yourself and loving each other at the same time. So next time you feel the need to ask for help, be it from a friend, a lover, the universe, or God, just believe that you are worthy to receive and ask. Just ask and you shall receive.
Monday, July 9, 2007
Pieces of the Puzzle
I have decided to share something that I have shared before. I will be publishing something I call "Pieces of the Puzzle" on a day to day, week to week basis. It is about being a mother. I am a mother who needs to share my story and that is what I will continue to do. These are thoughts, just thoughts. You give them the meaning that is right for you. I am just writing to keep my thoughts from running my life. They do not mean anything unless you give them meaning. My hope is that these "Pieces of the Puzzle" will help you in any way they are meant to.
Pieces of the Puzzle
There is a piece to being a mother that still seems to be missing. It seems to be coming up in so many different ways. It can be a cycle of ups and downs. A roller coaster ride that can be fun and scary all at the same time. What may seem to be out of control but stays right on track. I feel that it is time to get off the ride and look at this cycle one more time. In times where I am climbing up the roller coaster hill I mostly feel plagued with doubt. It can have a stifling affect on my day to day activities. Doubt likes to take over and hang out waiting for moments to prove its existence and say, “see I told you that was going to happen.” I find that this creeps up more often when I have not been taking care of myself. A little voice inside me says that I need to take care of myself first. Then there is a bigger voice that says this is selfish and that my job is to take care of everyone else first. This is what we were taught to do. I think of my children, they have no problem asking for what they need and want. “Mommy, more milk! Mommy, more crackers. Mommy, can you do this? Mommy, help!” For them, it comes easily. They announce comfortably and without hesitation exactly what they want. It is us that becomes tired of answering there requests and tired of how they ask for their demands. We end up teaching them to not be so demanding and to ask nicely. We teach them to wait their turn and be polite. We tell them not to ask for all of this or all of that because it is too much or too greedy to want it all. We feel they are acting spoiled. There is much to learn from this. They know nothing else than that they are important and that their needs should be met. We have taught them this from birth. They cry as a baby, we pick them up and feed them, change their diaper. We play with them, wash them, and dress them. We love them. We meet their needs. They get older, we find them demanding things and we wonder how they got this way.
But listen…they are teaching us something. Look into the mirror they are holding up for you, look at the reflection of yourself. You are just as important as your child. Yes you are. Your child is reflecting back to you how you should feel about yourself. I need more milk, I need more crackers, I need help with the laundry, and I need help with the cleaning. I need support; I need to be surrounded by love and those who care about my needs too. Huh? What is she talking about? Some of you might say. My mother did all of this and now it is my turn to do all of this too. My mother took care of everything having to do with the house and children. That is just what was done. Oh really, and how did that work for her? Was she happy? Did she have time to play with you? Did you feel like you were important? Did she show you how she met her own needs? Did she ever take care of herself? Did she ever get sick? Did she enjoy life? Did she look around and take in all that life has to offer? Did she listen to the rain, admire the flowers, hug the trees, awe at the sky, and reach up to the stars? Did she love life? Did she truly and honestly love life? Did she pass along to you how truly beautiful life is and all the glory that life has to offer? Did you watch bugs crawl across street cracks together? Did she ever look at each petal of a flower with you and see how truly miraculous and different each one is? Did she snuggle under a blanket and hold you and create beautiful stories at night time together? Did she ever take her hands and dig them into a gallon of ice cream and slop it in her mouth just for the fun of it? Did she ever be a kid with you? Did she ever enjoy life?
For me, my mom did not do this. She was busy. Busy, busy, busy. Always doing something. Doing, doing, and doing. She was doing the laundry, cooking dinner, dusting, going to work, or crying. Crying because her husband was an alcoholic and was coming home drunk again after riding the commuter train home from work. She was using her words to verbally pick fights out of her frustration over his incompetence and irresponsibility. And then she would be physically attacked by an uncontrollable man full of rage, fear, and frustration. In her mind she had to protect her children from this man and attack him with words in hopes he would stop drinking. But this always failed. He would retaliate with his fists. So my mom never had fun. She felt the weight of the world on her shoulders. She felt alone, very alone and desperate with her situation. She felt as if she should talk to no one because after all this was embarrassing. Her marriage was a failure and she was failing her children. Eventually. All of this got the best of her and she became ill. She fought her sickness (cancer) for awhile. Always looking for answers, hoping. She gave a good fight. But deep within her cells she was tired and really ready to let go. Once she new her children would be o.k. she let go and finally surrendered. Life was difficult to her. It was a hard life full of anger, frustration, and work lots of work.
This is some of what I have learned from my mother. She didn’t feel worthy enough to enjoy life. To take care of herself. She did not feel like she could be a kid with her children at times because she always had to be an adult. The “to do” list was never done. This, I do not want to pass along to my children. But even now, I find that my “to do” list is never done. I have to consciously choose to get down on my knees and play and remember who I am. I am a child of God. A child of the universe. I am learning, growing and tasting life on this planet in so many new and wonderful ways each and every day.
As a child myself, my own children are asking me to re-member all of this. They are asking me to re-member who I am. I am a divine child of the universe. I am here to enjoy life. I am here to ask for help. I am here to listen to what my children have to say, to respond to their needs, and to respond to my own needs. I am here to re-member to play. To re-member how important I am. How I am just as important as anyone else on this planet and in taking care of me and going within I take care of everyone else too. When Mommy takes care of herself she is showing, demonstrating the importance of taking care of herself to her children. Yes, their needs need to be met and their needs are just as important as yours. So now when I make my children a sandwich for lunch, I make a sandwich for myself as well. We all sit down together to eat, because mommy needs to eat too. When mommy wakes up in the morning it is just as important that she takes a shower and gets dressed as it is that my children get dressed. When my children go out to play in the yard it is just as important that mommy goes out to play in the yard too. Whether I play with my children or I go out to play on my own with my girlfriends, play time is important for ALL of us. The joy of life that my children demonstrate and mirror to me I must mirror back to them.
Motherhood is a mirror for the world to see how important each one of us is. We must mirror to the world how important we are and how our needs must be met just as our children’s must be met. Re-member we are all divine child-like creatures of the universe. We have much to learn from our children if we watch and take in all that they are teaching us. They want us to re-member who we are; children of God.
So, you may be wondering, “How do we remember?” We must return to the days when we felt important. When we felt important enough to ask for what we want without hesitation. When we knew, without a doubt that it was our innate right to have what we desired. For some of us, asking for what we want came naturally up until we were in our 20’s. For others of us we have to go as far back as to when we were 2 years old or even younger. We are brought into this world knowing we are important and that our needs must be met. Somewhere in the growing up in life we learn differently. We learn to put others needs before our own. There is a balance of meeting our needs and meeting the needs of others. It is when we have this balance that we feel great about the world. This balance creates peace, joy, and harmony. Balance shows us what comes in goes out. What we are is what we see in others. Balance is created when we see in others what we are in ourselves. We are children of God. You know you are a child of God when you can see this in others.
We must continuously go within and understand who we are and learn to re-member what makes us happy. What puts a smile on your face? What delights your insides? What makes your eyes sparkle? What makes the corners of your mouth begin to turn up? What makes you want to stick out your blue tongue from sucking on a lolly pop? What makes you want to kick your heels up? What sets your sails on a boat? Answer these questions, find out what it is, and then incorporate this into your life. Start small and then bring it in more and more, little by little. Until finally it is a part of your everyday life.
But how? Here is how. 11 ways to re-member your child like divinity.
1. Ask for help because you are worthy.
2. Trust, Have no doubts, everything works out.
3. Connect with others, reconnect with yourself.
4. Return to your roots.
5. Awaken your gifts.
6. Make time for yourself (you are important).
7. Embrace who you are.
8. Love thyself.
9. Be your own Master.
10. Love life.
11. Love the universe.
I will continue to write on each of these 11 areas day to day or week to week. I may expand on some more than others. Thank you for your interest.
Pieces of the Puzzle
There is a piece to being a mother that still seems to be missing. It seems to be coming up in so many different ways. It can be a cycle of ups and downs. A roller coaster ride that can be fun and scary all at the same time. What may seem to be out of control but stays right on track. I feel that it is time to get off the ride and look at this cycle one more time. In times where I am climbing up the roller coaster hill I mostly feel plagued with doubt. It can have a stifling affect on my day to day activities. Doubt likes to take over and hang out waiting for moments to prove its existence and say, “see I told you that was going to happen.” I find that this creeps up more often when I have not been taking care of myself. A little voice inside me says that I need to take care of myself first. Then there is a bigger voice that says this is selfish and that my job is to take care of everyone else first. This is what we were taught to do. I think of my children, they have no problem asking for what they need and want. “Mommy, more milk! Mommy, more crackers. Mommy, can you do this? Mommy, help!” For them, it comes easily. They announce comfortably and without hesitation exactly what they want. It is us that becomes tired of answering there requests and tired of how they ask for their demands. We end up teaching them to not be so demanding and to ask nicely. We teach them to wait their turn and be polite. We tell them not to ask for all of this or all of that because it is too much or too greedy to want it all. We feel they are acting spoiled. There is much to learn from this. They know nothing else than that they are important and that their needs should be met. We have taught them this from birth. They cry as a baby, we pick them up and feed them, change their diaper. We play with them, wash them, and dress them. We love them. We meet their needs. They get older, we find them demanding things and we wonder how they got this way.
But listen…they are teaching us something. Look into the mirror they are holding up for you, look at the reflection of yourself. You are just as important as your child. Yes you are. Your child is reflecting back to you how you should feel about yourself. I need more milk, I need more crackers, I need help with the laundry, and I need help with the cleaning. I need support; I need to be surrounded by love and those who care about my needs too. Huh? What is she talking about? Some of you might say. My mother did all of this and now it is my turn to do all of this too. My mother took care of everything having to do with the house and children. That is just what was done. Oh really, and how did that work for her? Was she happy? Did she have time to play with you? Did you feel like you were important? Did she show you how she met her own needs? Did she ever take care of herself? Did she ever get sick? Did she enjoy life? Did she look around and take in all that life has to offer? Did she listen to the rain, admire the flowers, hug the trees, awe at the sky, and reach up to the stars? Did she love life? Did she truly and honestly love life? Did she pass along to you how truly beautiful life is and all the glory that life has to offer? Did you watch bugs crawl across street cracks together? Did she ever look at each petal of a flower with you and see how truly miraculous and different each one is? Did she snuggle under a blanket and hold you and create beautiful stories at night time together? Did she ever take her hands and dig them into a gallon of ice cream and slop it in her mouth just for the fun of it? Did she ever be a kid with you? Did she ever enjoy life?
For me, my mom did not do this. She was busy. Busy, busy, busy. Always doing something. Doing, doing, and doing. She was doing the laundry, cooking dinner, dusting, going to work, or crying. Crying because her husband was an alcoholic and was coming home drunk again after riding the commuter train home from work. She was using her words to verbally pick fights out of her frustration over his incompetence and irresponsibility. And then she would be physically attacked by an uncontrollable man full of rage, fear, and frustration. In her mind she had to protect her children from this man and attack him with words in hopes he would stop drinking. But this always failed. He would retaliate with his fists. So my mom never had fun. She felt the weight of the world on her shoulders. She felt alone, very alone and desperate with her situation. She felt as if she should talk to no one because after all this was embarrassing. Her marriage was a failure and she was failing her children. Eventually. All of this got the best of her and she became ill. She fought her sickness (cancer) for awhile. Always looking for answers, hoping. She gave a good fight. But deep within her cells she was tired and really ready to let go. Once she new her children would be o.k. she let go and finally surrendered. Life was difficult to her. It was a hard life full of anger, frustration, and work lots of work.
This is some of what I have learned from my mother. She didn’t feel worthy enough to enjoy life. To take care of herself. She did not feel like she could be a kid with her children at times because she always had to be an adult. The “to do” list was never done. This, I do not want to pass along to my children. But even now, I find that my “to do” list is never done. I have to consciously choose to get down on my knees and play and remember who I am. I am a child of God. A child of the universe. I am learning, growing and tasting life on this planet in so many new and wonderful ways each and every day.
As a child myself, my own children are asking me to re-member all of this. They are asking me to re-member who I am. I am a divine child of the universe. I am here to enjoy life. I am here to ask for help. I am here to listen to what my children have to say, to respond to their needs, and to respond to my own needs. I am here to re-member to play. To re-member how important I am. How I am just as important as anyone else on this planet and in taking care of me and going within I take care of everyone else too. When Mommy takes care of herself she is showing, demonstrating the importance of taking care of herself to her children. Yes, their needs need to be met and their needs are just as important as yours. So now when I make my children a sandwich for lunch, I make a sandwich for myself as well. We all sit down together to eat, because mommy needs to eat too. When mommy wakes up in the morning it is just as important that she takes a shower and gets dressed as it is that my children get dressed. When my children go out to play in the yard it is just as important that mommy goes out to play in the yard too. Whether I play with my children or I go out to play on my own with my girlfriends, play time is important for ALL of us. The joy of life that my children demonstrate and mirror to me I must mirror back to them.
Motherhood is a mirror for the world to see how important each one of us is. We must mirror to the world how important we are and how our needs must be met just as our children’s must be met. Re-member we are all divine child-like creatures of the universe. We have much to learn from our children if we watch and take in all that they are teaching us. They want us to re-member who we are; children of God.
So, you may be wondering, “How do we remember?” We must return to the days when we felt important. When we felt important enough to ask for what we want without hesitation. When we knew, without a doubt that it was our innate right to have what we desired. For some of us, asking for what we want came naturally up until we were in our 20’s. For others of us we have to go as far back as to when we were 2 years old or even younger. We are brought into this world knowing we are important and that our needs must be met. Somewhere in the growing up in life we learn differently. We learn to put others needs before our own. There is a balance of meeting our needs and meeting the needs of others. It is when we have this balance that we feel great about the world. This balance creates peace, joy, and harmony. Balance shows us what comes in goes out. What we are is what we see in others. Balance is created when we see in others what we are in ourselves. We are children of God. You know you are a child of God when you can see this in others.
We must continuously go within and understand who we are and learn to re-member what makes us happy. What puts a smile on your face? What delights your insides? What makes your eyes sparkle? What makes the corners of your mouth begin to turn up? What makes you want to stick out your blue tongue from sucking on a lolly pop? What makes you want to kick your heels up? What sets your sails on a boat? Answer these questions, find out what it is, and then incorporate this into your life. Start small and then bring it in more and more, little by little. Until finally it is a part of your everyday life.
But how? Here is how. 11 ways to re-member your child like divinity.
1. Ask for help because you are worthy.
2. Trust, Have no doubts, everything works out.
3. Connect with others, reconnect with yourself.
4. Return to your roots.
5. Awaken your gifts.
6. Make time for yourself (you are important).
7. Embrace who you are.
8. Love thyself.
9. Be your own Master.
10. Love life.
11. Love the universe.
I will continue to write on each of these 11 areas day to day or week to week. I may expand on some more than others. Thank you for your interest.
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